As I have mentioned, I am competing in the Brighton Marathon in April. One of the objectives that I had for doing this was to raise some money for a charity that has personally helped my family. My daughter has a rare chromosome disorder, and the challenges that we have had to overcome because of this have taught me many things. But one of the most important lessons that I have learned is this idea of giving.
When you give something to someone else it frees you from your own self-obsessed world, and this in turn gives you a lift. An old Chinese proverb states, “a bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives roses.”
We often think in our self-absorbed world that success depends on focusing on oursleves, but in fact every successful person knows, that you become successful because of how much value you give to others. We happily depress ourselves by thinking that others actions and behaviours are somehow an expression of how they feel about us, where as instead their thinking about themselves too. We become sensitive and withdrawn, and shy away from others, and this then makes us less popular and less successful in all areas of our lives.
You would think that by continually giving something to others, you could not add to what you had, but the opposite is true. The more you give the more it attracts a desire in others to give back to you. Let’s see how this thing works. If you want to be interesting, then be interested in others; if you want more physical energy then burn energy when you exercise; if you want to be loved then be lovable; if you want to be understood then try to understand others; by helping others they will be more willing to help you back.
I have been overwhelmed by the support that I have received in one day from people donating to the charity that I have chosen, it has been an incredible response. I have felt good all day with the knowledge that I have been responsible for giving people a reason to donate, and the knock on effect is experienced by all of those people that have given amazing sums of money, and have taken that good feeling through their day. It generates a whole atmosphere of positivity and proactiveness, and this then creates an energy that can be used to fuel the fire of life.
It makes a huge difference to yourself if you could help others with your time, your attitude, your experience, and your resource.